part of the puzzle

Well, yes! What we do DOES have an impact on those around us. Are you shocked?

Do people squeal with joy when you arrive? Or do they run away to the other room to avoid you? I know that’s kind of harsh, but it can be a cold hard truth that we don’t often want to look at.

I’m not saying that it should be the goal of your existence to want others to like you, or to really even focus on others impressions of you at all. However, taking notice of others reactions to us can be a good barometer, we are all mirrors to each other. My point is: You matter, and your energy and actions affect the world around you. It is up to you what impact you want to leave.

It is true, whether you are happy or sad, joyful or tearful, you are a unique piece of puzzle called the Universe. What you project matters. Have you ever taken a step back to recognize what your presence contributes to the room around you?

Today might be the day to do a little self-examination. Notice, as you walk into a room, how does the energy change? Do people smile and become open and friendly? Or, do people contract and become cold? Does your energy promote peace, positivity and calmness? Maybe you bring an element of humor or happiness. Conversely, you could bring a dose of pessimism or sadness. What do you bring to the table?

This type of reflection can be quite an eye opener to some of us. Sometimes, we have become so unaware of ourselves that we forget how strongly our personality, our energy, influences others. Once you have a better understanding of how you interact with others in a non-verbal way, you may decide to change your ways, or not. Either way, at least you know.

It is now your decision what to do with the information. It is in your power to make a change and a make a difference.



onion and southern greens socca

As you may know, I love to bake.  And, while doing the Eat to Live cleanse during the first six weeks of this year,  I learned a lot about oil-free, grain-free baking. For one, it’s hard. There are not a lot of oil-free, sugar-free, grain-free recipes that taste good. So, I started playing with more of the savory baking and I learned that I absolutely love the idea of cooking with garbanzo bean flour. It is nutritious, filling and quite tasty.

Here is a recipe for a type of dish called socca. Traditionally, socca contains oil and is cooked in a socca pan. This recipe is adapted for those looking for a healthier alternative and still want something substantial to snack on. It’s similar to a flat bread but thicker, like a dense pancake. If you bake it first, let it cool and then re-toast it in the toaster oven, it is absolutely heavenly.  Enjoy!


1 C garbanzo flour

1 C water

1/2 C greens (I used Southern Greens from Trader Joe’s)

1/3 C onion

1/4 C nutritional yeast plus more for sprinkling

1/2 T Bragg aminos

1-2 t Herbs d’ Provence

red chili flakes to taste

Directions: Line a pie dish with parchment paper and pre-heat oven to 375 degrees. Add all ingredients to  blender except red chili flakes and blend until all ingredients are well mixed. There may be chunks of onion and greens, which makes for a more textured experience.

Pour mixture into the pie dish and sprinkle with nutritional yeast and chili flakes.

Bake for 35-40 minutes or until the top is golden brown and there it is cooked all the way through. The inside of the socca will still be a bit chewy, that’s just the nature of the socca, a little crepe-like.

Mmmm…now how’s that for an oil-free, grain-free vegan treat? Your body will love you…



self-love and self-acceptance

I began to think about the difference between self-love and self-acceptance. While they seem like they go hand in hand, I’m not so sure.

You see, a person could finally accept themselves, flaws and all but still not have a feeling of love coursing through their body. If one defines love as the source from which all Creation derives then we certainly have a lot to work toward in terms of loving ourselves. Sure, there are certain days when I love this thing or that thing about myself. But to really love oneself, through every cell is not an easy thing to do.

We can see that it is a difficult task just by looking around at all of the self-help books and workshops that are offered. People all over the planet seem to believe that self-love is extremely important, that we must be able to love ourselves in order to do anything else.

Do you agree with this? Do you believe that before all else we must have self-love?

I’m not saying that I have all of the answers but to some extent I disagree with this. I believe if we can tackle self acceptance than we have come a mighty long way. It occurred to me the other day when I was doing a self-evaluation of myself. And, in complete neutrality I realized that while I may not be pleased with every part of myself, my life, my being…I accept it. There is not a feeling or emotion attached to the acceptance, it just is.

Self-acceptance can be a very calm place to be, like when meditating. It allows for space in the mind to cease judging and analyzing. It is a peaceful place to rest and reside.

Sure, having self-love AND self-acceptance is the ultimate goal in many cases, but each sentiment holds a unique value.

What do you think?



in tune

Have you ever thought about why we grow apart from some of our closest friendships?

I like to think of people as vibrating energetic beings. We all operate at our own frequency, some go slower, some faster, some are louder and some are very faint. We have all had the experience of meeting a person and immediately feeling a connection. We feel ‘in tune’. And truly, we are in tune. Think of it like an orchestra. When the instruments in the orchestra are in harmony it is beautiful, easy and powerful. However, if one instrument is out of tune or off beat it creates a discord. When we are in discord or ‘out of tune’ with someone it feels awkward, weird and like it is work to to remain engaged in conversation.

At some point along our evolution, especially those who are on a spiritual path (which I believe we all are, some people are just more aware of it than others) begin to notice that some of their friends don’t come around so much anymore. For some reason that old best friend that used to spend every Friday night at your house has stopped coming over so frequently. And, this is normal. As we change, so does our frequency and we begin to hum at a different rate. This means, that potentially we could start to transition to a new group of people.

Many people I have spoken with find this transition to be difficult and somewhat painful, but it doesn’t have to be. If you can take a look at your relationships and honor them for what they are, then you have already started the process of creating a new symphony of supportive and loving friends.

If you are having trouble during this transitional phase, take a moment to realize what that relationship offered you; in your heart and mind, thank that person and that relationship for existing in your life. Visualize sending love and peace to the individual and to yourself to allow for any healing that needs to take place. It may take a little while to let your physical body, mind and emotions become in sync. But, with love and acceptance you will open up new pathways to  connections that you never dreamed possible.

Remember, you are never alone. The Universe is full of proof to show just how very important you are to Creation. You matter, your existence matters and your service to the world is important. The connections that you had, and the connections that you will create are merely ways of expressing your gifts to this world. Thanks so much for being alive and present!



don’t force it

Don’t force it, find it.

I heard this phrase last night while watching my hubby’s ninjutsu class. His sensei said it when they were practicing blocks and punches. As soon as he said it something inside of me resonated with it. YES! I thought…how often do we try to FORCE something to happen when it would be so much more efficient and less taxing to just go with the flow?

When life throws punches do you find the flow that will allow you to move through it with grace?

I think, too often we as humans are so accustomed to fighting that we prepare for war unconsciously. We are so ready, and on guard to block attacks from our enemies that we forget that life can be a beautiful symphony of give and take, ebb and flow.

What would life be like if we could just begin to stop forcing the energy of life into what we believe it should be? Instead, we could find the flow, and ride it out like a wave we are surfing.

So this is the om of the day…as much as possible become in tune with the energy around you and to go with it. Even if your internal human-ness wants to fight it, try something different and find the flow.